I originally ran this post on 6/8/10 when a few friends of mine were let go from a company whose office was at the Forum business park in Raleigh. Yesterday I had a few friends in Morrisville learn they’d need to start looking for work, so I thought it appropriate to run it again. Keep your chin up, friends – good things are on the way!
Also, make sure to check in next week, I’ll be running a series on retirement investments and changing jobs – really excited about that!
6/8/10 – A few of my friends lost their jobs last week. All of us who know them wish them the best and quickest journey toward their next ventures. Along with that, I figured I’d offer the best job advice I have.
Don’t rub it
Losing a job can’t help but hurt a little bit. Even the most well-adjusted person who has a complete understanding that the loss of their job had nothing to do with them feels a little sting at some level.
The trick is “don’t rub it.”
I learned a lot of what I needed to know about life from little league baseball. One of the things I learned was that when you’re hit by a pitch or when a ground ball catches you in the chin – after the play, the coach will yell “don’t rub it!”
I’m still not sure what it means, but I think there are two things going on here.
1) The coach doesn’t want you to put undue emphasis on your “ouchy” because you’ll focus on it
2) The coach doesn’t want the other team to know they hurt you.
Either way, I think it applies here. Read my post entitled “So you got laid off”. One of the things I point out there is that you have to get over your lay off before you can make real progress toward your job hunt. Do this in private with a good friend.
Once you’re done, be done, and don’t rub it. Neither recruiters nor Hiring Managers have any interest in hearing your layoff story. If that seems harsh, it is, but would you rather hear it from me or just not get the job?